Marriage is enslavement!!! How Chris Kirubi is confusing our children and youths
By Elkanah Nyauma
Speaking on the Churchill Show’s “The Journey’ series, Chris Kirubi gave false advice on marriage by describing marriage as enslavement. He said,
“Marriage is enslavement and you need to be careful. You have to agree to go into slavery, to go to jail”. Kirubi also told Churchill that once a person decided to be a slave for the rest of their life, then there is no going back…”If you marry a good woman, it is such a pleasure. But there are some women, who are like they first went to the army then came back for you to marry them. They are always in a fighting mood. God has to bless you.”
Chris Kirubi praised Ugandan women who he says make the best wives because of their respect, love, and humility. The businessman and father of two added that people need to be careful when it comes to marriage and make sure they know they are making the right decisions before tying the knot.
“They have hospitality….a Ugandan woman will remove your shoes, ask how your day was, she will even dress you up,” he said. “You will never fight with them, they are very polite, If you have never experienced it, get a one-way ticket as you might never come back.”
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What Kirubi’s allegations about marriage teach our children
Marriage is not necessary because it is slavery
Women are the main problem in marriage
That their parents are just surviving in the jail of marriage
Marriage is just a waste of time yet he was born into a marriage
That only Ugandan women care for their husbands.
Why marriages break
People marry because they think they have reached the age of marrying
People marry because they feel they can take care of a family
People marry because of societal or family/parental demands
People marrying because they think they are getting old
Marrying because you have the money
People marrying people from their own tribes because that is what their parents want
People marrying because of peer pressure/imitating others and the desire to fit into the society and be part of the club.
People don’t understand why they are getting married. They think they are getting married so they can have children.
Men think women exist to cook and take care of them. This is a bad understanding of what the intention of marriage is all about.
The opinion: Kirubi’s thoughts about marriage are a total lie.
Chris Kirubi is speaking out of past experience. He is from a divorced home which in my view made him not see it as a big deal to divorce his wife.
The media personalities should ensure people they bring to talk about an issue on public television are experienced about the topic to avoid this kind of embarrassment. This is a total disappointment from Kirubi.
The problem is with people themselves, not the marriage.
The people in the marriage are “the enslavement”, not marriage. When they choose not to respect and see each other as one body, one union, then the marriage becomes unbearable, enslavement.
Having a better marriage is a choice, the responsibility of both parties involved not about blaming one person. Husband and wife are one thing. If there is chaos, then both have failed.
Marriages break because people are not compatible. There is somebody special for everybody. If you follow your heart and pursue that which motivates you, you will meet your special wife or husband.
People should learn to live together if the reason for marriage was real love for each other.
People bring their past families (father, mother, brother, and sisters) to their marriage.
People are not ready for change because marriage demands that you change; from a boy to a man, a girl to a woman, a child to a responsible husband or wife, and much more.
People have not developed the humility that sustains the marriage. Their ego is beyond their control and they cannot manage a relationship.
People are not willing to give away their lives for their spouses, no wonder humility is a theory to be studied by them.
Marriage is not about what one person can do for the other person. Marriage is about walking together in an adventure of a kind, loving, sharing, and being there for each other. Marriage is about me being there for you, giving all of my life for you; knowing that I belong to you and you belong to me. That is what I am talking about.
Marriage is not jail as Kirubi is preaching. Marriage is a divine blessing and a gift from God.